Matthew 18:15-20
Jesus said: “If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one. But if you are not listened to, take one or two others along with you, so that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If the member refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”
Reflection
The new partnership with Place for Hope – now called the ‘Living Reconciliation Partnership’ – was formally launched at General Assembly 2025.
Place for Hope has its roots in the Church of Scotland, but has been an independent charity since 2015, enabling the gift of this ministry to reach more people. In addition to the United Reformed Church, the charity collaborates with the Church of Scotland, the Methodist Connexion, and other organisations.
This is not just about responding to conflict situations with mediation; it is an opportunity to shift the culture throughout the URC to transform how we respond and engage with conflict.
Several URC members, including myself, have now undergone training, been assessed and accredited as mediation practitioners, and joined the several URC people who have already trodden this path before us.
In our reading, Jesus outlines a clear and compassionate process for addressing conflict in community. The goal is restoration, not punishment. Begin in private, with respect. If needed, include others for wisdom. Only after multiple attempts is broader action taken. This shows deep respect for the dignity of all involved and the unity of the community. It encourages truth-telling and accountability, but always with the aim of healing relationships rather than escalating conflict.
John Paul Lederach, a Professor of International Peacebuilding in Indiana, shares an interesting take on this in his book ‘Reconcile.’ He points out that Jesus actually spent time eating with tax collectors – so when verse 17 says to treat someone like a Gentile or a tax collector, Lederach’s advice is, “eat with them!” There’s something powerful about sharing a meal, isn’t there? It builds relationships, breaks down walls, and reminds us that love can overcome fear. Jesus had this way of meeting people where they were, showing connection and compassion above all.
Prayer
God of peace,
grant us wisdom and humility as we seek reconciliation in our communities.
May your Spirit guide our words and actions,
fostering understanding and healing.
Help us to build bridges where there is division,
and always to act with love and grace.
Amen.